PASSING ON A CHRISTMAS HERITAGE
I have always loved Christmas. As a child, I remember driving to a local gas station
where they were selling Christmas trees. My dad, mom, brother, and I looked at
various trees, breathing in their piney smell until my parents chose the tree that was
right for us. In the living room, my dad wrangled the tree into the stand, my mom
added water, and we decorated. My dad skillfully arranged the crayon colored lights,
angling the bulbs away from the branches to avoid possible fire. My mom hung the
beautifully reflective glass balls and baubles in an artful manner. The shiny tinsel, so
popular in the late 1950s, was irresistible. In spite of careful instruction from
parents, my philosophy was the more the better. And so Christmas began, building
and growing in my young heart, full of beauty, magic, and the sweet regularity of
Christmas traditions.
From my current vantage point of seventy years, I think about how my husband and
I can pass on our Christmas heritage to our grandchildren. We certainly did this
with our own children but somehow our efforts are in sharper focus for the next
generation. With the help of our kids and grandkids we typically decorate our tree on
the first Sunday in Advent. The grands have done this often enough that they
recognize many of our ornaments as old friends, especially if an ornament involves a
story. Children love stories, and decorating the Christmas tree has become an
opportunity to share stories of Christmases past and the people who were part of our
family history. Designer trees have their place, but I love hanging objects with a
connection to the past. We have told our grandchildren stories connected to their
ancestors, using items like my great-grandmother’s wooden clothespins, made festive
by a ribbon, to talk about her coming here from Sweden. We have shown them the
bell which my husband’s mother wore at Christmas on a red cord, now shortened to
hang on the tree. We are able to tell them about this good and godly woman, and
they connect her with the bell. My babyhood plastic angel rattle has become a family
joke (my husband thinks it is ugly!) and he used to hide it in the back of the tree.
Now my grandson loves to hide it, although I always find it and restore it to a place of
honor.
Holiday foods are another great way to pass on a Christmas heritage. These foods
often connect children to the place their ancestors left to make a new life. In our
family I make a number of Swedish cookies, some of which my mother made when I
was a child. I still use some of her cookie cutters. I have a few vintage cookie cutters
from my husband’s grandmother to which (you guessed it!) I attach a ribbon and
hang on the tree, providing another story. A tradition that I began for my
grandchildren includes baking special gingerbread Christmas trees to enjoy with
eggnog while they decorate the tree. I have told the stories of my childhood
Christmas Eve dinners, when my mom always fixed potatis skorv (Swedish potato
sausage) and lutefisk, a dried and salted cod, cured in lye (for my dad’s Norwegian
heritage). It becomes a white, gelantinous mass when rehydrated and heated. My dad
always poured melted butter over it, the lutefisk’s only redeeming feature. But what
a fun story for the grands!
Repeated and expected foods, rituals, and experiences are an integral part of the
delight of Christmas, but taken by themselves they are only outward trappings, like a
beautifully wrapped gift with nothing inside. The heart of Christmas is Christ and
all the rest of our traditions and celebrations point to Him. The sweetest and best of
our Christmas comes in worshiping together, singing carols, hearing the Christmas
story, and learning about the Best Gift, and the Greatest Gift-Giver, the source of all
other gifts. May those who come after us know Christ, our true Christmas Heritage.